Why does it matter is your 25k fleet points got creamed by a 100k player or a 5,000k player. It got creamed either way, and that will happen if you leave a yummy fleet on the ground while you are not online. Use defenses and fleet save to make you self less of a target, but ultimately if you are not nearly perfect at watching your ships, you will never be able to maintain a large fleet.

Every player in this game has had to manage their account to get where they are. The biggest accounts have earned there place. Don't retrict them, play well and pass them so people can complain about you instead.